With all of this stuff going around tumblr about the new no self harm terms, I thought I’d post a little something about it.

Now, I’m not a thearpist or have any big degree in behavioral sciences or anything, I’m just stated what I’ve learned, and I really hoped you read what follows because it has helped me become so much more.

If you think about, and think hard, you’ll find you affect people in more ways than you think.

Of course, you have the standard way you act and things you say. Not saying those things aren’t important because they deffinately are, but think of the other things.

Let’s take, for example, something simple. Maybe in the morning when you put your shoes on, you had to take an extra two seconds because the backs got sucked in with your foot.

How many ways can that affect you?

It could be the difference between cutting off someone on your way to work and not.

So say you end up cutting someone else… Now thats the difference between making the light at the intersection.

Say you make the light. Now thats the difference between being in the way when a driver on his phone misses a stop sign.

Thats the difference between life and death.

What does this have to do with the new tumblr terms?

All the things I said above were vitually unavoidable. I mean, I guess you could use a shoe horn everytime you put your shoes on, but still, you don’t ultimately control who’s where when.

Since you have no control over things like that, why not make a positive impact with the things you do have control over? You don’t get to chose if someone takes their life or not, but why not try to help them or talk them out of it? Or at the least, not bring the subject up?

Of course, these are my opinions and you can do whatever because you are you and I am me, but in the end, I hope you are content with the choices you make and how they affect others.

What do you think of this? Let me know.. I want to hear your opinions!

Being student director of our women’s chorus, it’s my job to lead them when our director is gone. 

Leading 67 girls = no easy task.

To make things a tad easier, my director left the sub a movie for the girls to watch called “Finding Your Song”

So we start watching the movie, and, like all things to good to be true, it ends up being one of those cheesy inspirational videos that shows no actual footage, just a close up on the guys face.

And, to make things worse, he acted like he was talking to 5 year olds. And the topic of the video was to always be happy and find things your good at and do them, which is a good message; it was just delivered poorly.

Almost none of the girls were watching, which frustrated me.

Instead of flipping out, though, I had a better idea.

When the movie ended, I asked the class, “What did you learn from this movie?”

They answered, “You need to find what your ‘song’ and do it” (your song being the thing your best at)

So then I asked, “What is your song?”

A couple people raised their hand and said things like running, singing, eating, sleeping…

All of them were checked out for the day, and I was ready to give up with them, when one girl, raised her hand.

“My song is telling my story to elementary kids of how I was bullied when I was younger and how I overcame it.”

The room feel silent. Then, one girl started clapping. Then another. Then another. Soon the whole room was clapping for her.

A bit of background information, the girl was a lesbian and had bullied to the extreme (I won’t go into details) for it from a very young age. She joined a youth leadership organization and now she goes to elementary schools to explain what bullying looks like, why it hurts, and how to stop it.

Her response changed me inside. I may not be a lesbian, or have been bullied like she had, but she made me realize that your “song” doesn’t have to be a talent. It could be making every’s day brighter, being a good friend, or being a good role model.

So even if your not the best athlete, singer, or dancer, (and as cheesy as it sounds) you have a song inside of you. Your job is to find it and let it be heard.

What’s your song? I’d love to hear from you! Let me know by messaging me :)